Showing posts with label mothering. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mothering. Show all posts

Monday, July 16, 2012

Oh Monday


What is it about Monday- the day that we never have it quite together- the day my kid thinks its okay to stick his hand in the toilet-(thank goodness I dumped some cleaner in there and ran a brush around the rim yesterday) that day where every. single. toy. we own is out and on the floor- and when I start to pick up/ P says- 'but I'm playing with that mommy'... !!!!!!....

Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and laugh though ( and stick them in the bath)

Because although life as mom is messy -it's rewarding ten times over..

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Here's a little nugget about me....

Did you know that I'm an angry person? 

Well, I am, and seeing it in Piper reminds me of how I want to handle this emotion in a more positive way.  
I see now how "yelling it out" is very immature of me, and although anger in itself is not a negative thing, we often equate it with that because our action is all wrong. 

When anger arises in me, it's a very real feeling.  My heart beats faster, my palms literally begin to sweat and I sometimes downright want to punch you.  I think the reality of it is, is that I was never shown an example of how to handle my anger positively.  I live out some of the ways my parents handled anger because I was being taught by example.  I'm not saying it was their fault and this is why I deal with it, no, this is just my struggle.  Just like you have your struggle.  Worry, alchoholism, what have you.. 

It wasn't until I was married and began to process this anger in my marriage that I realized something is clearly off. I knew that from instances in my life before marriage, dating as far back as the age of twelve, but it was never displayed in the way it was in marriage.  And even more so, in the way you see your anger in someone else-a child.  

It becomes a very stressed environment here when a 2 year old is yelling and smacking the air and running away.  Wow- seems like ways I handle anger with my spouse and others. (Wanting to punch you in your face and go into a room and slam the door) 

We're a work in progress over here...

I'm really glad I have this struggle though.  It reminds me of my frame.  It reminds me of my need for Him.  

There's power in the struggle.

Here are some proverbs about anger.  I love proverbs because they are so very right even if you don't believe in the bible.  

My favorite one being 'For as churning the milk produces butter, and as wringing of the nose produces blood, so stirring up anger produces strife." (30:33)

A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly (14:29)
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control (29:11)
A quick-tempered man does foolish things (14:17)

What are some ways that help you handle your negative anger?

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Full Term Baby in there....


Here's what "they" say is going on in there....

  • Your baby is now considered "full term," even though your due date is three weeks away. If you go into labor now, his lungs will likely be mature enough to fully adjust to life outside the womb. 
  • Your baby weighs 6 1/3 pounds and measures a bit over 19 inches, head to heel.


So it looks like we can now say all systems are a GO! I'm super excited to be at this point! I am very excited to hold him in my arms.  To be a Momma to a tiny little baby once again..to hear those first cries of new life...to snuggle and have him on the outside...FINALLY..Paul and I were talking last night about how excited we are to see that precious face! To hear your husband be so excited about his son is the most beautiful and precious thing in the world.  I can't wait to aid in giving that gift to him~

I don't know how I'll handle it all, how Piper will react, how I'll deal with those long restless nights, but I'm gonna look back at this post and remember that in this moment-I'm super excited to be having a little boy in our lives...


Start sending the prayers up to bring this baby OUT! It's gonna be a long 3 weeks..

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Potty training

I can't believe she got it- 

We've been showing Piper the potty since she was about 7 months old- 
yes very young but hey... Did you know that Americans potty train their children WAY after the rest of the world? 

Take a look at this article..That isn't to say that we've been diligently trying since then, just dipping my toes in to get a feel..But I do think that we'd been trying for about 5 weeks now...

You see...I actually started a post titled "Potty Training" on May 31st... and this is as far as I got into the post..

"Potty Training is for the birds...I have pee all over my carpet and I feel very discouraged." 

So...I didn't think this road was/is super easy, although I do hear that girls are easier to train than boys, I wouldn't know at this time.    

But here's what I will tell you...This is what it looked like
for us...

Step 1: Introduce the potty but don't force or get frustrated if they mess up...I did this for several weeks... reminding her that the potty was right there if she decided she wanted to use it. (I just sat the little potty out in the middle of the living room) I also gave her a choice of diaper or panties...she usually chose diaper..

Step 2: When I felt that she was ready to move on, (showing much interest in the potty and also recognizing her body's ability to pee-she would look down while peeing and say "uh-oh" or start running to the potty while peeing {yes mess EVERYWHERE}) we stayed at the house for a few days...butt naked :)

Step 3: Repeat over and over and over and over "Remember if you have to tee-tee use the potty" Clean up mess after mess....(I would let her help me do this) Repeat many, many days...

Step 4: Take her to the store and let her pick out her favorite panties...Piper picked Rapunzel panties :)

Step 5: Praise the heck out of her- WOW-she has not had an accident ALL DAY...how did this happen? It really was just out of nowhere..but I will say this... Step 3 would have gone nowhere fast without these...

one for tee tee two for poop    

Step 6: Venture out into the world diaperless- EEK! This scared me to death...and it doesn't come without accidents... we've had 2 so far on different days...but she's learning to hold it and gets so excited when she goes on the BIG potty in public.  3 skittles for that...

She's still in diapers at nap and night for now...Precious P you are growing up too fast...



Monday, March 21, 2011

Rethinking Carseat Positioning




I saw on the today show this morning that the AAP is now recommending that children under 2 continue in a rear facing position, for the safest way to travel in a car.  I also learned that the seat we currently have for Piper may be too big for her.

Here's an article i'm reposting from CNN's website on the issue.

I talked to my sister already and we will be switching seats VERY soon...

Read and let me know what you think...

In a new policy statement published in the April 2011 issue of Pediatrics, the American Academy of Pediatrics now advises parents to keep toddlers in rear-facing car seats until age 2, or until they exceed the height or weight limit for the car seat, which can be found on the back of the seat.
Previously, the AAP advised parents to keep kids rear-facing as long as possible, up to the maximum limit of the car seat, and this has not changed. 
But it also cited one year and 20 pounds as the minimum for flipping the seat, which many parents and pediatricians interpreted as conventional wisdom on the best time to make the switch.
The new policy clarifies the AAP's recommendation, making age 2 the new guideline -- a real game-changer for parents of toddlers.

A 2007 study in the journal Injury Prevention found that children under age 2 are 75 percent less likely to die or to be severely injured in a crash if they are rear-facing. Another study found riding rear-facing to be five times safer than forward-facing.
"A rear-facing child safety seat does a better job of supporting the head, neck and spine of infants and toddlers in a crash, because it distributes the force of the collision over the entire body," said Dennis Durbin, M.D., F.A.A.P., a pediatric emergency physician and co-scientific director of the Center for Injury Research and Prevention at The Children's Hospital of Philadelphia and lead author of the policy statement and accompanying technical report.
Recall Finder: Check if your child's car seat has been recalled
Parenting talked to Ben Hoffman, M.D., associate professor of pediatrics at the University of New Mexico in Albuquerque and a child passenger safety technician, to get answers to parents' most pressing questions about the new policy.

Although the new baseline is now age 2, the AAP has advised parents since 2002 to keep kids rear-facing until they reach the height or weight limit of their car seat. Why are parents so eager to turn their car seats?
"Parents are interested in milestones, and the minimum of one year and 20 pounds has been interpreted as gold standard instead of the minimum," says Hoffman. "Parents are always looking for the next stage of development because in every other scenario, that's a good thing. With car safety seats, however, that's often not the case."

But isn't forward-facing easier for everyone?
Yes, it's easier to interact with your child when she is facing forward, and less awkward to get her into the seat. But safety should be the main concern. "I would ask parents to consider the protection of the child in addition to comfort," says Hoffman. "It's minimally acceptable to change to forward-facing at a year, but parents can do better than that."
New infant and convertible car seats to keep your child safe

What about squished legs?
Kids who have been only rear-faced will most likely not be bothered, since they don't know anything else. And it's completely fine for their feet to touch the seat back, or for their legs to bend. "Once you make the switch, it's hard to go back, so try not to ever switch them before they are ready," says Hoffman.

Why are so few parents aware of even the older guidelines that say kids should stay rear-facing as long as possible?
There may have been some confusion with the message, with many parents mistaking the minimum for the ideal age to make the switch. The AAP hopes that by making age 2 the new guideline, the message will be less confusing for parents and for pediatricians.

If my child turns 2 before he reaches the height or weight limit for the seat, should I keep him rear-facing?
Yes. The safest decision is to keep him rear-facing until he reaches the height or weight limit for the seat.
10 Car Seat Mistakes You May Be Making

If my child reaches the height or weight limit for my seat before age 2, what should I do?
Once your child exceeds the height and weight limit of his infant car seat, purchase a convertible car seat with a higher height or weight limit (most go to 35 pounds rear-facing) and continue to use it rear-facing until age two, or until your child hits the height or weight limit for rear-facing use. At that point you can make the switch to forward-facing-- or you can purchase a convertible car seat with a higher weight limit for rear-facing (some go up to 45 pounds). "That's a very personal decision for the parent," says Hoffman, one that may also be influenced by the size of your car, the arrival of a younger sibling, or your budget.

What should I do if I've already switched my under-2 child for forward-facing?
The best advice is for parents to consider switching their child back to rear-facing. But the next best thing is to, at a minimum, make sure you correctly use the seat you have: Make sure the seat is harnessed tightly to the vehicle, that the harness is snug over the child and the chest clip is in the correct position, and that the seatbelt or LATCH system are installed correctly.

Why didn't my pediatrician tell me about this?
"Pediatricians should be talking about this," says Hoffman. "But given everything else that needs to happen in a well-child visit, sometimes this message gets left behind. I would love to see a day where every family-care health provider knew the best possible advice and shared it with their patients."

Monday, October 25, 2010

Mothering Monday

Give a kid a piece of popcorn and watch her dance!

Piper was loving the popcorn pieces I was giving her.  She would get a piece and just laugh and dance! I've never given it to her before, so she was excited about a new treat!

Reminds me of Matthew 7:11...

If you, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the Father who is in heaven give to those who ask Him!

I have little time today.  I've been busy making and cleaning....and pondering what to do with this pumpkin...i foresee yummy-ness!

more to come soon...









                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           

Saturday, October 16, 2010

Mimicking Me

When I was younger (and still a small part of me now-actually) I didn't like to be mimicked.  It actually would make me flaming mad...I like to do my own thing..I mean who doesn't.  Whether it was phrases I used or things I wore, I just wanted to be me, and no one else. 

Well...funny how the Lord teaches you and grows you....

Enter Piper...


cute, eh?

She watches closely and observes every little thing and instead of mad..
.I'M SCARED TO DEATH!

A soul is watching me and doing what I do...

Piper's reaction to me singing and sticking out my tongue:




it's cute now, but what about those times when I am not acting out of love, get easily angered, disrespect my husband, yell and scream, dress immodestly, am lazy......she's mimicking those too...

She is my biggest testimony to others...How do you fare?


Monday, September 20, 2010

M is for Mother

It takes someone big and great to be a mother.  And I always feel far far from that.  Patience is tested constantly and some days I simply run out.

Since Friday sweet P has had a little stomach bug, and I've never felt more loved and appreciated in my entire life.. It's these moments that make it all worth it.  And I wonder to myself why I lose patience with her in the first place.  It's like those books and movies that make you want to live life to the fullest! Carpe Diem stuff... and this is what mothering does to me.

Most days are hard..well monotonous you might say, with the ends and outs of life...but then there are times that you get to sit back and examine yourself as a mother.  The times when life is just a bit slower, and most of my day is devoted to just laying with P to make her feel better.

She snuggles up so tight for tens of minutes (!!!!!!!!!!).. A rarity these days... and it's the sweetest sweetest feeling...to drink it in, to really love it, because soon it will just be a memory...
 I'm sure gonna miss that baby face...